Synchronization
It's a unique ability: to think one thing, feel a second, and do a third.
what asynchronous behavior.
Go on, try listening to asynchronous music and see how you like it.
It's horrible.
the same with us; asynchronicity is very harmful,
especially when it comes to our thoughts, words, actions, and state of being.
Thoughts
You are what you think you are. The more you oppress yourself, the more oppressed you become. Whatever colors you imagine, those are the colors you will see. Thoughts are an ultra-important aspect, so please, use this tool very carefully and do not harm yourself.
For example: You set a rule for yourself. You fail to follow it and start blaming yourself. Because of this, you will constantly feel guilty and repeat the same mistake (!), so be careful with your thoughts, meaning your approach.
Second example: Something bad happened a long time ago, and you don't forget it, constantly reminding yourself of it. As a result, you always feel bad and miss any opportunity for improvement. Yes, even at times like these, you must be careful with your thoughts. (What happened, happened; the main thing is that it doesn't happen again).
Words
I agree with the idea that one's personal vocabulary radically affects their life. If you disagree, just try setting a one-month standard for your words and see how you feel. Think before Speak.
Action
What is the point of knowledge if you don't use it in practice, or can't gather the courage to do something????! Aude Sapere
State
"Most of what we feel isn't our emotions, but rather an internal background -- momentary dominant feelings."
"If you felt depressed yesterday and you feel depressed today, there's a 90% chance you will feel depressed tomorrow as well."
Yes, controlling your state is possible, and whether you can or not depends solely on your approach. I would recommend readiness. Just as you can manage emotions, you can also manage this background. The latter is easier; the former will require a lot of work, and what's better than that?
Synchroni-zation
So, by merging these four qualities, you will achieve trans-form-ation. Of course, if you realize the need for it.